3 year old been sooo stubborn

Question

so, my little boy has always been stubborn but lately he’s just pushing every boundary both at home and at school.

His nursery teacher pulled me to the side to tell me that he gets up at story time and walks off and tells them “I don’t like your story” and then refuses his lunch and tells the teacher no, she told him off so he threw his shoes at her. He is very fussy with food and we struggle to find something he actually will eat so I do think he just doesn’t want to eat. She said she’s seen a change in him.

At home he’s absolutely fine until he’s asked to come do something like get dressed then he switches, he runs about, laughing and throws stuff while just been ‘silly’ (me and my partner have to dress him together and it’s just ridiculous) and if he’s asked to wait he just shouts his demand over us while we try to talk to him and literally never backs down and can paddy for over an hour or until he wears himself out. He doesn’t get his own way though so it’s not like he wears us down and gets his own way

is this a phase for a 3 and half y/o? And what’s the best way to deal with it? We’ve removed toys, done time out, tried ignoring him, done positive rewards for listening, sticker charts and absolutely nothing gets through to him

TIA

Answer

so, my little boy has always been stubborn but lately he’s just pushing every boundary both at home and at school.

His nursery teacher pulled me to the side to tell me that he gets up at story time and walks off and tells them “I don’t like your story” and then refuses his lunch and tells the teacher no, she told him off so he threw his shoes at her. He is very fussy with food and we struggle to find something he actually will eat so I do think he just doesn’t want to eat. She said she’s seen a change in him.

At home he’s absolutely fine until he’s asked to come do something like get dressed then he switches, he runs about, laughing and throws stuff while just been ‘silly’ (me and my partner have to dress him together and it’s just ridiculous) and if he’s asked to wait he just shouts his demand over us while we try to talk to him and literally never backs down and can paddy for over an hour or until he wears himself out. He doesn’t get his own way though so it’s not like he wears us down and gets his own way

is this a phase for a 3 and half y/o? And what’s the best way to deal with it? We’ve removed toys, done time out, tried ignoring him, done positive rewards for listening, sticker charts and absolutely nothing gets through to him

TIA