Holiday hijacked by school mum
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Last post: 08/02/2024 at 8:07 pm
Hi. I’m after some advice.
we booked a holiday in June for our family (kids are 4 and 6). It’s a hotel they LOVE and are super excited about.
one of the school mums asked for some advice on good places to go for the summer holidays and I told her about our hotel and said we’d booked to go again in June. A few hours later she text to say they have booked and that it’s the same week and she didn’t realise “sorrrreeeeeyyyy lol”.
im absolutely fuming. It changes the dynamics completely. They have just one child who is mean to our daughter at times and won’t let our youngest join in when they play. If my daughter knows they are there she is going to mither to play with her every day and we’re going to face that battle constantly). We aren’t the type to socialise on holiday (we really value our family time) and the thought of seeing them every day (it’s impossible to avoid them) is filling me with dread. Oh and she’s also text other friends suggesting they book too! I don’t know why she thinks it’s ok to just shoehorn everyone into our holiday.
whst can I do? We’ve looked at changing our holiday. It’ll cost us £150 admin fee which we’re more than happy to pay but we can’t find anything in budget that is on par with where we’re staying. Do I just be blunt and tell her we’re not happy?
thanks
Hi Kerry
"Didn't realize" - my elbow. From what you have said here, it sounds as if you did such a good job on promoting the joys of this place; she thought she would go there too and your child would be on hand to entertain hers... You also know that she is encouraging others to do the same thing...
I would say that changing the booking, even if it is going to cost you, is the only way forward if you want to preserve your hard-earned holiday as your family time. I would not say another word to her about this holiday; or any other arrangements you may make in future. Let her work it out for herself that you are not there.
Best wishes.
If it’s going to change the dynamics of your holiday for the worst then I would swallow the fee and change the booking , when you go on holiday you don’t want drama or be feeling anxious before you go , that’s the exact reason we go away - to feel relaxed ! I wouldn’t bother telling the lady your annoyed it’s not going to achieve anything , I would just change it and say you found a more suitable holiday .
Could you change your dates rather than your whole holiday
Thank you guys. We took the plunge and changed the holiday to another sister hotel on a different island. You all reinforced what we were thinking. It didn’t cost us much more in the end and the hotel looks better for our little ones. The only compromise was that we are only going for a week rather than 10 days we’d originally booked.
thank you
It's strange she felt like she should say sorry! Like she knew you wouldn't be happy but did it anyway? There's no way I'd do it if i thought someone didn't want us there. If she'd been like "oh yay we have the same week!" It would make more sense. Clearly the wanted their kid to have play mates so they could relax.
How big is the place, is there more than one pool? Beach and other things nearby to escape to? It's annoying but hopefully there is room to avoid them. I'd prob not go as far as to say I'm not happy, but i would say something like "that's great lm sure we will see you around the resort . we are really needing some family time at the moment for the 4 of us, so don't think we are rude if we keep ourselves to ourselves".
Thank you guys. We took the plunge and changed the holiday to another sister hotel on a different island. You all reinforced what we were thinking. It didn’t cost us much more in the end and the hotel looks better for our little ones. The only compromise was that we are only going for a week rather than 10 days we’d originally booked.
thank you
Ah just read this reply. Good decision.
Thank you guys. We took the plunge and changed the holiday to another sister hotel on a different island. You all reinforced what we were thinking. It didn’t cost us much more in the end and the hotel looks better for our little ones. The only compromise was that we are only going for a week rather than 10 days we’d originally booked.
thank you
Good call.
Now make sure the other mum doesn't find out....
Thank you guys. We took the plunge and changed the holiday to another sister hotel on a different island. You all reinforced what we were thinking. It didn’t cost us much more in the end and the hotel looks better for our little ones. The only compromise was that we are only going for a week rather than 10 days we’d originally booked.
thank you
You will have the last laugh when she is running around trying to find you...and you will be chilling in another resort. Don't tell her you changed it Ssshh.
You will have the last laugh when she is running around trying to find you...and you will be chilling in another resort. Don't tell her you changed it Ssshh.
I think changing the resort to another island is better, that way you know you won't bump into her. If she does ask you after the holiday, where you were, you just say 'oh did I not tell you, that we'd upgraded to a better hotel/ resort ?
No, don't be blunt, it's not worth it. You have to know this woman for a long time yet. Say nothing, just plan for this time and next time.
Keep looking, change your holiday no matter the cost. Go somewhere else, even a different type of holiday. Much nearer the time, casually mention you changed your holiday because (make up a reason). Can you change the dates instead - in which case tell her you made a mistake with the dates but only once she gets there and you're not there.
Never tell anyone your holiday plans again.
You will have the last laugh when she is running around trying to find you...and you will be chilling in another resort. Don't tell her you changed it Ssshh.
We’re planning to “check in” on facrbook when we get to the other island 😂
We’re planning to “check in” on facrbook when we get to the other island 😂
I’d not realised when we shared the resort that it shared EVERYTHING, even flight times so we were literally with them from the airport…
First rule, if it’s a parent of a child who your child doesn’t get along with, never suggest your own holiday resort in any advice…
Now you’ve managed to change your hotel and resort - DO NOT tell her anything at all - let her find out the hard way when she turns up there and you’re not there for her to drop her child round to play with yours so she can have free time…
And after the holiday, if she asks where you were, say you had to change your booking because of a last minute family issue (none of her business) and DO NOT tell her where you went - or she’ll invade that next time as well.
Steer clear of her in the playground in future as well, make yourself busy, chat to other parents or teachers, etc…
I’ve had similar happen to me, but different scenario - really annoying!
I’d not realised when we shared the resort that it shared EVERYTHING, even flight times so we were literally with them from the airport…
Don't check it at all. Is she your Facebook friend? You don't want her knowing...x
