Just need some advice-Please no negatively

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Last post: 21/02/2024 at 9:21 am

Sarah M(78)

15/02/2024 at 8:00 pm

I just wanted to see what people thought. I am six months pregnant a s to put it short, I went on a hen doo for two days at the weekend. We do not normally have that amount of time away from eachother. I kept in touch with my husband but I when I came back he was certain we had a stripper. Something we absolutely did not have. It was a chilled weekend for me others drunk with a karaoke machine etc.

All the uncertainty coming home has made me so unbelievably anxious to the point I am having a few panic attacks. I just feel like I cannot calm down now. We fall out over really small things I overthink everything and get myself into dark places.

Julie M(36)

15/02/2024 at 11:46 pm

Hi sarah

So sorry you are going through this. You've had a nice weekend away with your friends and the last thing you want is to come home and feel anxious.

I can't help but wonder why he feels you had a stripper over? Could he have spoken to someone who was with you during the weekend? It's a random thing to just assume. What I'm saying is it seems like someone has said something to him. Have you tried finding out from him why he made this accusation?

Sarah M(78)

16/02/2024 at 8:14 am

In answer to

Julie M(36)

Hi sarah

So sorry you are going through this. You've had a nice weekend away with your friends and the last thing you want is to come home and feel anxious.

He just always thinks of the worst scenarios to any situation. He couldn't have spoke to anyone on the hen as there was not anything like that on the hen. Thanks for the reply Julie.

Carly P(182)

20/02/2024 at 12:24 pm

He shouldn’t be making you feel this way.

To be this anxious to return home isn’t normal.

It seems to me like a bit of a red flag?

Maybe I’m overthinking as I’ve have come out of an abusive relationship.

But I would just be careful. Xx

Kim S(866)

21/02/2024 at 9:21 am

This does not sound like a healthy relationship as he is harming your mental health. He has no reason to think there had been a stripper yet he is accusing thus affecting your emotions. Be very honest with yourself and take a look at what he is doing as an outsider. This sounds abusive and I bet this isn’t certainly not the first time he has been chipping away at your self esteem. You will end up a shell unable to recognise yourself

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