So lonely
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Last post: 04/02/2024 at 10:10 pm
I’ve moved to a new town, managed to find a little part time job, I take all the hours I can because I dread going home. I split with my ex New Year’s Eve, he threw me out after a petty argument, I stayed with a work friend till I found somewhere to live, I live in a shared house it’s lovely but I’m so lonely, I see nobody outside of work, I go to town on my own, eat by myself, I can’t sleep properly, some nights I’m awake till 3am & then have to drag myself to work. I just don’t know what to do.
Hi Betsy
I’m Lauren one of the parent supporters here on Netmums. It sounds like things are really difficult right now. You’ve had a break up, had to move and now are feeling lonely and perhaps a bit low?
I wonder could you try and do some things with people in your house such as something social? Or perhaps join a gym or other activity? It can be hard to start again with new friendships.
You may want to think about some counselling too if you think that would be helpful. What do you think?
Hopefully some other members will come along and share their experiences too
Hi there, I'll second what Lauren says about getting some counselling, and trying to do some social activities.
Have you thought about volunteering with a local Scout or Guide group? They often need extra help, most are quite flexible about the amount you volunteer, and you'll find most are very friendly.
You'll be interacting with people of all ages and backgrounds, and doing something useful, and you'll receive some great training opportunities that can be useful in the workplace too.
I'll declare that I'm probably biased: I've been a Scout Leader for nearly 30 years, and the majority of my longer-standing friendships have come from Scouting.
Hi, I’ve recently found myself in this situation too. I sat down and wrote a list of all the things I enjoy doing / eating / watching… everything and then a list of things I’d like to try in the future . Basically a list just based around what makes me happy without having to consider someone else. Now I try to do a little of some of these things each day to value my time as precious even when I’m spending time alone.
It can be really hard learning to love your own company but stop thinking about it being lonely and start working on doing all the things you want to do.
I am totally social and love entertaining but so love my alone time as well. I really miss being that free, having to take other people into account can be like a prison.
Please don't get down about it. As a woman you're actually more free to talk to strangers and random people you meet without coming across as creepy.
Why do you think you can’t sleep as in what is on your mind? The loneliness? Have you got any friends that you can go out with or family? Maybe join a local group to interact with people x
