6 year old school friend too clingy
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Last post: 24/12/2023 at 2:33 pm
Hi
So my 6 year old (p2) dd has a friend at school that is becoming annoyingly clingy with her.
They were friends from P1.
At first everything was fine and cute but by the end of p1 my dd has been coming home and saying how her friend will cry if my dd tries to play with someone else or doesn't partner up with her.
I asked dd to ask her to join in when playing with friends but she doesn't and just sulks instead.
I think they do get on most of the time but i'm getting the impression she manipulates my little girl with angry faces and tears.
I have tried to explain to dd that she should try and include her but just try once and then go and do your own thing.
She ruined dd's first school disco because she wanted to cry and not dance, so my dd felt she had to stay with her friend.
She is very clingy with her parents at school gate too. Kids are now meant to go in gate themselves but this little girl will literally cling to her Mum and Dad........and its 6 months into p2.
The little girl doesn't seem to want to make other friends but im worried this will end up holding my dd back. should mention to the teacher that I have notice this?
She very kindly gave my dd a christmas card and sweetie one day (cute) and then the next day she asked my dd where was hers? (not so cute). I did bring a card and sweetie for my dd to give her friend but before I could the little girl said to my dd 'tell your mum to give me my card'!!!!
We brought her back a small gift from our holiday last year. I brought it to give to her when I was collecting my dd and she pestered my dd to get it and then snatched it out my hand....I just laughed it off but i'm noticing the pattern now.
The mum and dad are lovely but im wondering are they teaching their child manners???
When we leave school the little girl catches up to us or waits for us. Even when we're ahead but she shouts for my dd to come back and give a hug (now annoying me).
I feel bad as the girl is only 6 but I can't unnotice things now.
Oh the joy of playmates and the drama I remember it well.
Sounds like you're doing all the right things by encouraging your daughter to play with others and explaining that the friend is just going to have to cry it out as its all for attention and a way to manipulate others once she realises her crying isn't getting what she wants and does missing out she might start to join in with others of her own free will.
Maybe have a chat with the teacher to make sure they are sat separately then your child can interact with other children, don't encourage after school playdates and good luck.
And maybe stop the gifts and when she shouts her back for a cuddle just say sorry we are in rush today gotta go. You're all pandering to her demands.
And maybe stop the gifts and when she shouts her back for a cuddle just say sorry we are in rush today gotta go. You're all pandering to her demands.
I had a friend the same , only she was age 23😬 She’d cause an awful atmosphere if I had friends around of which I knew previous to her
You need to have a chat with the teacher, this doesn't sound healthy at all.
And maybe stop the gifts and when she shouts her back for a cuddle just say sorry we are in rush today gotta go. You're all pandering to her demands.
Thank you all for replies.
when me dd walked out the school gates yesterday the little girl ran back to us and walked right infront of me so I had to stop and she could walk with dd…..sounds daft but it’s happening so often it’s reeeeally getting on my wick. She did the hug thing again today and I actually had to say ‘ok we have to go now’ as she was holding on for dear life. The mum just looked on. Usually the parents are walking way ahead without even looking back.
The parents are nice but I’m trying not to get too close to them incase I get put in a position of a play date. We did it once last summer and it was fine but since became even more clingier …….hindsight 🙄.
My dd says they are in diff groups at school so that’s one good thing. I asked dd if she would miss her friend or if she would like the space ….. she chose the latter.
Thankfully next year I think we will be walking a different way home (due to location of diff class gates).
i suppose I should be thankful this is the issue and not bullying but obviously still something to monitor.
Mention it to the teacher but it an “can you keep an eye” kind of way. If this was a child in my class I would make an effort to pair both children up with others to (a) give your daughter a break and (b) encourage other friendships for the other child. The teacher can also keep an eye at school and ensure that your daughter isn’t feeling obligated to stay with this child, and also make sure the other child is being supported. This way if it comes from the teacher, it isn’t obviously your daughter, she might not feel so bad!
