7 year old daughter temper
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Last post: 09/02/2024 at 7:57 am
My daughter has always had a slight temper and can be very stubborn, but now it's starting to affect her in school more, which has caused the school to phone me and now the school has requested a meeting to discuss how to help going forward. I am a single parent with a full time job and just feel very lost at the moment.
She doesn't like to get things wrong or make mistakes, which causes her to become frustrated in school. I feel like what I do or say is going over her head or she just gets frustrated at me.
She can be awesome for days and I try to tell myself that she's tired or feeling under the weather, but I feel that I am the only parent who's child is like this in school, and just want to help her with her anger.
Hi Charlotte
I’m Lauren one of the parent supporters here on Netmums. You’ve told us that your little one struggles with her temper and that school want to have a meeting to look at more support. That sounds like a positive step Charlotte, it is good to get some support in place if she is struggling.
I wonder does she struggle with the content of school work? How is she doing academically?
When you say she has temper at home, how and when does this happen? Has she always been like this or do you see it more at certain times?
Children often need some support especially with learning how to manage their emotions and lots of things can help such as play therapy. You can read more about it here. https://www.netmums.com/child/play-therapy
We are here to listen if you want to talk some more
Your not the only one she might have ASD if fustratec a lot my child is the same n gets annoyed.Try n get checked out if can n see what problem is
Hi Charlotte
I’m Lauren one of the parent supporters here on Netmums. You’ve told us that your little one struggles with her temper and that school want to have a meeting to look at more support. That sounds like a positive step Charlotte, it is good to get some support in place if she is struggling.
I wonder does she struggle with the content of school work? How is she doing academically?
When you say she has temper at home, how and when does this happen? Has she always been like this or do you see it more at certain times?
Children often need some support especially with learning how to manage their emotions and lots of things can help such as play therapy. You can read more about it here. https://www.netmums.com/child/play-therapy
We are here to listen if you want to talk some more
I can totally understand your frustration but think a meeting with the school is a step in the right direction and they may see things you’re not seeing as a parent. (That is by no means a dig) as I was the same 11 years ago with my son. I knew he was struggling developmentally and with his sleeping but as he was a boy never thought anything of it until school raised some concerns. A year after school raised these issues we had a diagnosis is ASD and ADHD. Please make time for the school as they can support both you and your daughter.
I can totally understand your frustration but think a meeting with the school is a step in the right direction and they may see things you’re not seeing as a parent. (That is by no means a dig) as I was the same 11 years ago with my son. I knew he was struggling developmentally and with his sleeping but as he was a boy never thought anything of it until school raised some concerns. A year after school raised these issues we had a diagnosis is ASD and ADHD. Please make time for the school as they can support both you and your daughter.
Thank you all for your responses. The school believes my daughter does have some signs of autism. I have thought this too. She is a very bright girl, who excels in reading and maths and tends to work with the older children. She works well independently, and gets frustrated when she gets thing wrong. At the moment, her frustrations are coming out at school, so it is difficult on them, but they are putting a plan in place. There was another incident today 😞. Thankfully it is half term next week! I have her doctors appointment on Tuesday, so hopefully something can come from that. I'm just not sure what to expect from it to be honest.
Thanks again all
Thank you all for your responses. The school believes my daughter does have some signs of autism. I have thought this too. She is a very bright girl, who excels in reading and maths and tends to work with the older children. She works well independently, and gets frustrated when she gets thing wrong. At the moment, her frustrations are coming out at school, so it is difficult on them, but they are putting a plan in place. There was another incident today 😞. Thankfully it is half term next week! I have her doctors appointment on Tuesday, so hopefully something can come from that. I'm just not sure what to expect from it to be honest.
Thanks again all
One thing I would suggest before your doctors appointment would be to write everything down and make like a diary especially if they do the referral for you.
ie what / when and as much description on her meltdowns
is she struggling from sleeping
what happens when she is out of routine
does she suffer with any sensory issues ie clothes she won’t wear or gets mad at if you try to put them on her
how she plays and then tidys up. Does she line toys up and put them back how she got them out etc
does she respond to been called (I thought my son was deaf but as she couldn’t see I wanted him he would never respond)
hope that helps and if your doctor doesn’t refer I think now you can self refer your self at your local camhs
One thing I would suggest before your doctors appointment would be to write everything down and make like a diary especially if they do the referral for you.
ie what / when and as much description on her meltdowns
is she struggling from sleeping
what happens when she is out of routine
does she suffer with any sensory issues ie clothes she won’t wear or gets mad at if you try to put them on her
how she plays and then tidys up. Does she line toys up and put them back how she got them out etc
does she respond to been called (I thought my son was deaf but as she couldn’t see I wanted him he would never respond)
hope that helps and if your doctor doesn’t refer I think now you can self refer your self at your local camhs
Added…
also if they do refer and you get the appointment the best bit of advice I had years ago was don’t sugar coat her behaviour etc. think of your daughter on her worst days. I know this sounds awful to do and it made me feel crap to begin with but it helped with his diagnosis as I was trying not to be biased of him been my son. You have more focus on what your trying to get across
