Pregnant but don't want the baby and depressed
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Last post: 01/01/2024 at 7:57 pm
I have just found out I am around 4-5 weeks pregnant I did use the morning after pill but obviously it didn't work I am in a relationship been together for almost 13 years we have 2 kids 12 and 5 but I just really don't want this baby I am already depressed and suffer severe anxiety especially where my kids are concerned it's like I over worry constantly to the point it affect my Daily life I have had two c sections and the recovery was awful and also I have no help at all my husband is good but soon as baby is born he wil do anything he can to be gone so then I'm alone and recover looking after the baby on my own it's like he can't handle it when second was born he would accept any job offer to work away he was literally gone the for a year of my sons life I was completely alone no family no help to the pint I couldn't wvwn shower I stoped him working away completely because I had enough it's not just that reason I don't want it its just I ca t do it again I don't think my mental health could take it the thought of the c section and the thought of actually taking care of a baby again is unbearably to me I love my two kids there my full world but I didn't enjoy the baby stage of either of them I use to pray for my son to turn 3 just so it would be easier for me to cope and I feel guilty for even considering a termination it goes against everything I was raised to believe in I feel trapped and like there's no hope at all sorry for this long post I just don't know who to talk to my mum had 10 kids and I never wanted more than 2 I don't know what to do 😢
Hi Liaza
We've moved your thread into our drop-in clinic maternal mental health, so you can get the advice and support you need
Hi Liaza
I'm Catherine, one of the Parent Supporters here at Netmums. How are you this evening? I can hear how much this affecting you in your post - sending you a gentle hug this evening.
Liaza, I'm sure lots of our community will resonate with what you have shared. Being a mum is tough especially if we feel alone and anxious. It's ok to make the decision that is right for us but sometimes it can be helpful to chat someone to help us navigate what we are going through. Would you be able to have a chat to your husband about how you are feeling and how this is impacting on you? Do you have any support for your depression and anxiety such as a counsellor? If so, could you speak to them about how you are feeling or perhaps make an appointment with your GP.
Hopefully some of our lovely community will be along soon to offer support but please come back to us if you would like to chat some more, we are hear to listen
Catherine
