Extend our family
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Last post: 25/02/2024 at 10:21 am
How did you Mums decide if having more than 1 child was the right choice? We are married, have 1 boy aged 10. He’s independent now and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, but Husband and son would like a sibling. Did we leave too much of a gap? We have 2 dogs, full time jobs and it sounds like hell (if I’m being honest), going back to sleepless nights, but there’s this niggling doubt. Will I regret it? Can I give our son the best thing ever, a sibling to treasure? Opinions appreciated. :-)
So i have kids 10yr biy 8 Yr girl and 8 month old baby girl, I understand this is different as I already had 2 kids then had a 3rd but my fear was the same in terms of the age gap and sleepless nights and it was extremely daunting starting over again ( my baby is with my new partner hence the age gap lol) I thnk what ppl.cant tell u is how it will be they the are older, my older son n daughter will be 18 n 20 wen the baby is 10 so will she feel alone will she be bored - all these questions no one can answer really . I have loved having a baby again its been very different this time round ( babies had some struggles) and my relationship is a good relationship vs my first with my elder 2. The elder 2 also adore their baby sister they r very loving caring always want to play with her interact with her fighting fir her attention lol. But u need to ask ur self who would u be having a baby for? Is it for ur son n husband or for ur self cos ultimately its u that will be sacrificing ur time body life social life and work and all these things and if its not something YOU 100% want then I'd have to really question it. Don't rush or be pressured in to anything and it 100%OK if u don't want another. Just because we r women doesn't mean our lot in life is bare children, if ur son is enough for you then that is OK xxx
I have 3 kids. 12,6 and 5 and even though 2nd was a 5 year gap now she's 12 she's not interested she's out with mates etc and it's hard do days that suit older an younger 10 is a big gap and even though exciting at first they won't be that close I have 10 year gap with my older brother and we aren't close I can't even remember any memories growing up. Depends how old u are also x
8 years between me and my brother, I love him but I feel we grew up in two different generations. I was 18 when he was 10.
So I was an only child until my brother arrived when I was 13 (1/2 brother). I love my brother to bits and now he’s 20 we get on pretty well, don’t really see him but we message regularly. When he was little though I felt more like an auntie than a sister. I’d babysit, as we got older I’d take him to his karate classes, take him to McDonald’s etc. It was lovely but not really a sibling. I will still say I’m sort of an only child as I never had the sibling experience.
My 2 children have a 3 year age gap and now at 1 and 4 they are starting to play together, fall out, clearly adore each other. I feel their experience will be different to mine.
If that was me, I would not be going back. You woukd need to look at finances etc. That is also a huge age gap. The decision ends with you as you are the one that will be pregnant.
