Ex has moved into a garden room.
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Last post: 19/08/2023 at 3:29 am
To cut a very long story short, my two young children have very slowly built up to overnight stays at their dads house every other weekend. This is arranged by court order now. At the time of the finalisation of the child arrangement their father was in a new relationship and living in her house.. all seemed good. He then moved into a flat, then on to live with a friend, now it transpires he has moved again (after 2 months of not seeing them) into a garden room at someone’s house. This is just a room, no kitchen bathroom, toilet, sink. He is saying they ‘have the run of the house’ but to me this all just sounds too much. I don’t know who this house belongs to and what if they need to use the toilet in the night? Wash their hands??
he just says for me to stop asking questions and it’s nothing to do with me while they’re there. Help!!
This is a tricky one …..,
I used to camp as a child and in the night we had to walk to the toilet block (supervised )
Will he do this ?
Even if they are in a garden room they have a roof over their head. Presumably dad has taken you to court to see his kids because you have stated a court order is in place now, meaning it has cost him alot of money to be able to see his kids. Then plus if it's only every other weekend child maintenance on top to you, what if he couldn't afford his flat due to all this so now all he has is this but is making the best for his kids? Why put them down constantly for having their kids.
Even if they are in a garden room they have a roof over their head. Presumably dad has taken you to court to see his kids because you have stated a court order is in place now, meaning it has cost him alot of money to be able to see his kids. Then plus if it's only every other weekend child maintenance on top to you, what if he couldn't afford his flat due to all this so now all he has is this but is making the best for his kids? Why put them down constantly for having their kids.
This is quite presumptuous. I have a court order in place with my ex but he didn’t take me to court to see our son, it went to court as he committed “parental abduction” so it’s now all down legally that he can’t abscond with our son during visitation again. I know many people who have court orders and it’s not that the mothers stopped them seeing the children it was just to ascertain legal days for each party to keep it right.
To the op, I too would be concerned about this. Not so much the fact it’s a garden room as I’m sure he will take them in to the main house should they need the toilet but the fact he is living in what is essentially shared accommodation where people will be around your children but won’t tell you who these people are? Why not just give you the information? My ex is currently living with friends of his (that I’ve never met) after he and his partner split but he told me the names of the friends and address details etc. Obviously I can’t stop him and I don’t have concerns over that anyway but I do have a right to know who they are. Just like if I were to go away on a weeks holiday and share a lodge with a friend and my children were there I’d tell him who was going. Seems very strange that he won’t give you the information and like he is trying to assert control. I’m not 100% sure on the legal stance with this to be honest as my two exes (more than one child) have always swapped information and sent pic updates of any fun outings etc but I’d be contacting my lawyer to check if I can get this information.
