Hitting and pushing in Reception
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Last post: 24/12/2023 at 12:08 am
My son has been in reception for only 4 days and already they are drawing up a behaviour plan. He’s been hitting and pushing which they think is an impulse thing. He has been sent to the headteachers office twice already for disruptive behaviour.
He went to the school nursery there and similar issues arose there and no improvements.
He is clever like he can name all the other planets and in order, starting to add, subtract and times numbers (loves his numbers) and has an amazing memory. He is also so loving and I don’t think he’s given the school chance for them to see this.
I feel lonely and like such a rubbish mom and it feels like I’ve tried everything and no change.
has anyone been through something similar or can offer advise? Thank you
Hi Natasha,
I'm Catherine, one of the Parent Supporters here at Netmums. Thanks for reaching out. It can be really common for kids to take some time to settle in school. It's a new environment with new adults and a different mix of kids. It can take kids time to learn the new rules and expectations and school should be somewhere which is fun and enjoyable. Is your son enjoying school? I'm sorry to hear you feel that school aren't seeing your sons strengths and talents but I can hear how proud you are of him. Could you have a chat with the teachers about what is going on? Perhaps the plan is something that they use with many kids or perhaps you could add to it with suggestions of what works well for your son? You know him best. Barnardos have some useful information on their website too which you may like to explore. Here's the link: Understanding behaviour | Barnardo's Family Space (barnardos.org.uk)
Hopefully some of our lovely community will be along soon to offer support but if you would like to chat some more, you can start a new post in our drop in clinic.
Take care
Catherine
It is not unusual in Reception and some children take longer to learn to negotiate, share, take turns, queue and communicate without hands.
Give him time and when he misses out on a few things or gets a reward when he improves he will soon learn,
Parent behaviour therapy can help you and your son develop a better relationship, reduce conflict and stress, and increase positive outcomes. However, it may not be enough to address all the issues that your son may have, such as learning difficulties, ADHD, ODD, CD, or ASD.
In that case, you may also need to seek other forms of support, such as educational assessments, special needs services, medication, or individual therapy for your son. You may also need to work closely with your son's school and teachers to ensure that they understand his needs and provide him with appropriate accommodations and interventions.
Its quite normal at that age and older we just need tell them we be kind etc and show good ways to behave . Little ones are always doing that most of rhe class will be the same
