In shock, overwhelmed, pregnant
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Last post: 22/01/2024 at 12:00 pm
Hello everyone
So, I am Alison, 42, mother of 3 (15, 17, and 21!!) and I found out yesterday I am pregnant.
I foolishly assumed my period hadn't arrived due to menopause. My partner and I had said some time ago how we would love to have a child together (my children are to a previous marriage, he has one child to a previous relationship and 50% custody) and would see how things go, but I was showing signs of menopause for the past year and really didn't expect to conceive. We spend half the week together, the other half he lives in his place with his son and on the weekends he has his son we are all together.
Yesterday he brought one of those fancy digital tests home. It said the words "Pregnant 1-2 weeks" đŻ sorry...what?
I am experiencing a wide range of emotions. My primary emotion is joy and excitement, but I am also terrified. This is my 5th pregnancy in total, my second child was stillborn 18 years ago and I was blessed with two more children after that. I think one of my main fears is the judgement from others because of my age and situation.
I am posting here because I need someone to talk to. I am a therapist and ironically don't really have anyone to listen. I don't want to share this news with family just yet.
According to an online calculator I am due September 24
I'd really appreciate any supportive kind words
CONGRATULATIONS!!! Amazing news and you should be happy! I had a child at 40 years old. I have 2 step children.
To be honest, I wouldnât give a sh*t what anyone else thinks, we are in a time where there are various shapes and sizes of families, half of all families have some kind of step parent, age gap etc we have a variety of genders, women on average give birth at a older age, itâs the norm. Itâs a new age. Dont think twice about what anyone else thinks, concentrate on you. If anyone says anything bad, then they are not worth your time or energy, put it where itâs needed, your new child.
I got pregnant at 42, I have a nearly 11 year old. My son is 2 now. Sometimes feel worn out but wouldnât be without him for the world! I hope everything goes well for you.
It is absolutely normal to be shocked considering you werenât expecting to be pregnant!!
You said that primarily you are excited and joyful so try and focus on that rather than being terrified although being scared is completely understandable after a stillbirth.
I have 5 children, and also had 4 miscarriages in between so no how scary it is to be pregnant after a loss even if you have had live births after.
I had baby no 4 at 41years old and no 5 (who was an absolutely wonderful surprise) a month before my 44th birthday. She is now 9 and an absolute joyđĽ°
You may get a mixture of responses from your older children (my eldest who was 14 when we found out I was pregnant burst out into tears when we told them which was totally unexpected!!) but hopefully they will be happy and support you
Personally I have felt healthier and less tired with my 5th child than the othersđ¤ˇââď¸ I had the most wonderful home water birth with her too.
Be kind to yourself. The one benefit I have found about getting older is not caring what other people think of me anymore. I hope that you can do that too and just focus on you, your baby and your family đ
Congratulations :)
Please try not to worry about any judgement, plenty of women have babies around your age these days. There are a few children in my 5 year old daughter class who's parents are lates 40s-50. No one even bats an eye lid, we are all the same. If you are happy to be pregnant, try to enjoy it and take good care of yourself xxx
Congratulations! Your kid will have so much love for the two of you and all their siblings. Enjoy this moment. I am 41 turning 42 and trying to get pregnant. I hope no one is judging me, bug to be honest, I donât care.
Thanks so much everyone for your kind words of encouragement. Sadly I have had a miscarriage đ it's amazing how quickly you accept the pregnancy and fall in love with it
Thanks so much everyone for your kind words of encouragement. Sadly I have had a miscarriage đ it's amazing how quickly you accept the pregnancy and fall in love with it
Iâm so sorryđ Please take care of yourself xx
Thanks so much everyone for your kind words of encouragement. Sadly I have had a miscarriage đ it's amazing how quickly you accept the pregnancy and fall in love with it
Oh no, I'm so sorry. Go easy on yourself and take care.
Thanks so much everyone for your kind words of encouragement. Sadly I have had a miscarriage đ it's amazing how quickly you accept the pregnancy and fall in love with it
Oh I am sorry to hear this, sending love xx
