Teen worries

My daughter (13, nearly 14) disclosed a few months ago that she had been cutting herself. I seeked medical advice immediately and we saw a counsellor at the GPs. They only gave her a few leaflets but nothing else and we have heard nothing since considering they wanted to put her on contraceptive pill to try help stabilise her mood.

My daughter is homeschooling due to medical appointments that required her attending hospital for her treatments 3 times a week. The school were massively unhelpful and punished her for her lack of attendance and not knowing what work she should have been doing despite the medical appointment letters being emailed to her head of year/form tutor and me requesting homework information (which was never sent to me).

I know this had an effect on her mentally and for a while she enjoyed doing work at home and was doing AQAs over a rage of topics and looking at attending college after she turns 14 to do her GCSEs. But recently her attitude has become aggressive, she’s refusing to do any schoolwork, she won’t help around the house or with the dogs. She sleeps all day and is awake all night. I’m on egg shells around her as I don’t want her harming her self again. But im struggling to get through to her. I work in a school and work with SEN children as well as other children within the school with emotional and behavioural difficulties, it can be quite demanding, to then come home and having to clean up mess she’s left, look after her brother and the dogs, complete any work I need to do, I’ve tried asking for help, explaining how stressful it is being a single mum with a full time job and just wanting to come home to a clean house, and to see some school work completed. This evening I asked her to collect her

brother from a school club, as she wanted me to get her a pizza on the way home and I said if I go out of my way for the pizza she likes can she get her brother, she said yes. I got a call from school to say he hadn’t been collected. Thankfully school is close to home and I wasn’t to far away and managed to collect him, she then erupted when I asked why she didn’t get him, and said she hated everyone and I’m the reason she harms herself. We normally have a good open communication relationship so to hear that was heartbreaking, I know she’s struggling and have tried to support her and get help but feel she’s now trying to use this self harming against me to stop me asking her to help me out here and there. Has anyone had to deal with anything similar? It’s amazing how I can help 100s of children at school, but struggle to fix this.