Move my daughters nursery or stay put for the next few months

this is going to be a long post sorry

i have 2 daughters ages 1 year old almost 2 and 4 years old

this decision will affect both of them, they are currently at a nursery which up to recently I would brag about to anyone who is looking for recommendations, but recently my eldest daughter has been having some issues there she was being bullied by 2 children separately and the nursery dealt with it before I even knew what was going on.

one morning had a hour long meltdown about going to nursery I didn’t know why, I know she is happy once she is in there so I sent her in and when I picked her up she told me that the two children were hitting, pushing and kicking her. When I spoke to the staff they claimed they had no clue it was going on but my daughter told me which members of staff she told so I named them all but one of the children had been excluded for other issues and the other child has send issues and would keep them separate but the fact they claim they didn’t know what was going on is mind blowing. My daughter is emotional and cries at the drop of a hat so I know she would have been upset and told someone.

she had another meltdown this morning and only wanted to go once she knew that child wasn’t in today and the change in her attitude was amazing today she was back to being my smiley little girl again when the other child is in her whole demeanour changes, I spoke to the nursery manager this morning and she was laying the send issue on thick, I’m an understanding person but my children come first before any other child send issues or not.

I’ve also told them that she is vegetarian it’s her choice and her meal plan needs changing but today she was offered sausage casserole obviously she didn’t eat much.

my only issue is do I take her out now even though she is starting school in September I’ve found a nursery which offers wrap around care for the school I want her to go to, she can build friendships then school won’t be as scary or do I wait until I have confirmation she has a place at that school before moving her which is in April.

if I move her and she doesn’t get a place it would mean going somewhere else for wrap around care on my working days and her starting over when she’s already an anxious little girl but she is miserable at the current nursery and whatever happens with her affects her younger sister.

my husband told me I can’t just move her because of a bully because I was ready to never send her in ever again, he works away and only gets to speak to our girls over FaceTime but he’s noticed tonight the change in her attitude after having 1 day away from the child and he finally agrees she needs to be moved but it’s just doing it the right time with little disruption to them both.

my youngest loves going and loves the staff but it’s different staff in the toddler room to the pre school room and will eventually go in to the pre school room.

my original plan was to keep my youngest in this nursery until she starts school and doing 2 drop offs on a morning but this has now changed.

if she wasn’t starting school this year they wouldn’t be going back and I would have them in at a new place ASAP I just don’t want to get her settled and having to change her again but I also don’t want her going back but she has friends at this nursery I just want her to feel safe and happy I really don’t know what to do for the best.

thank you for reading