Pregnant and feeling guilty

No it will be fine and possibly not on the same date and even if so for a few years baby won't know birthday and will be all about your son and always make more fuss of the older child. How olds ur son. And whens the due date and sons date x

Try to think of it another way! How exiting that the baby will be born around the time of your other child's birthday! And Wow! How amazing if they were born on the same day!!

Having a baby is an exiting time and hopefully your son will be super exited to be a big brother! What a wonderful present that will be 🙂

Try not to overthink things x just get everything organised for your sons birthday a good time before so you don't need to worry around your due date x he will have a fabulous birthday

I don’t think it’s much of an issue tbh, other than the cost for you as the parents when birthdays swing around. My brother was born 11th July, myself 13th July a year apart so very close in age. Growing up the only downside was many many joint birthday parties. A huge shared birthday cake, until our teens (not a big deal as the cake was amazing) but I do remember feeling like my 17th birthday was pushed to the side and forgotten about on my brothers 18th birthday. That was the only negatives for me. My brother celebrated his 18th 2 days later on my 17th birthday. So it was a weird experience him having a party, and everyone arriving wishing him a happy birthday on my Birthday. Most had no idea it was actually my birthday. As a 17 year old I remember that stinging a little….obviously as a nearly 32 year old it wouldn’t be a big deal now.

hopefully they have separate birthdays, albeit close together. My advice would be, to just make sure their birthdays are celebrated individually. As everyone deserves to feel special 1 day a year, without sharing that moment with someone else for years after years. Oh & of course a birthday cake each 😂

My brother was born the day after my third birthday and we loved having shared parties as children.

I can actually remember my dad taking me to big toy shop in the town and buying me a big box of Lego on my birthday to make up for my mum being in hospital

My twin grandsons little brother was born on their birthday 5 years later. Absolutely not an issue, just coincidence and they’re fine with it. Please don’t stress when there’s nothing you can do about it.

Hello,

I know exactly how you feel. Our second DD was born on our first DD's birthday. They both shared the same due date and both arrived 4 days late.

During my pregnancy I didn't want baby to be born on our eldest birthday and had got it into my head that baby would be early so there would be a bit of a gap between them. Unfortunately this didn't happen and baby was late resulting in both DD's now sharing a birthday.

We've just had their 5th and 1st birthday where they celebrated with a joint party and then their birthday just a family day.

Our eldest genuinely doesn't seem bothered about sharing her birthday, I think she actually thinks its something special.

We just made sure to talk to our eldest about the possibility of sharing her birthday with the baby and we've always said that we would make it special for both even splitting the parties to alternate weekends when we get to them not wanting a joint party. Communication is definitely key.

Do be prepared for some mum guilt though if they do end up sharing a birthday. I was exhausted after being up for over 24 hours due to being in labour for so long and our youngest being born early morning that despite being back home for 8am to celebrate the eldests birthday I forgot to do the cake and sing happy birthday to our eldest and feel like I was present physically but not mentally for her 4th birthday.

Also shared sibling birthdays happen more often than you think.

Sorry for the long reply 😅

You'll probably find that he ends up WANTING the baby born on his birthday and will be disappointed when it isn't.

For my family, May was already a busy month for birthdays... got my husband and his brotherbon the same day, 2 years apart, then also got my dad, my sister and one of my daughters and every time it got close, everyone was hoping it would land on THEIR day and everytime it missed the next would laugh and say "my turn!" Lol. Baby decided "sod that! I'm not sharing my day" and waited until all the May birthdays were out of the way and came at the end of the month... 2 whole weeks late.

But hubby and his brother shared a day and never cared... not until adult hood and its a test to see who rings to say happy birthday first, lol

First world problems. A lot could happen between now and then. Regardless of that, what does it matter anyway??

Hi, My 2 children have the same birthday 3 yrs apart, I cried initially when my waters broke at midnight, knowing it would be that day but its worked out fine, we had joint parties initially for a few yrs, then separate ones and now they're teens we do weekends away. Its never bothered my children that they have the same birthday. Got 5yrs before they turn 18 and 21 on the same day!

May first baby was due on the 18th and I went over 9 days, four years later my second baby was due on the 24th and I went 4 days over. I understand what you are worried about as all I was concerned about was that they didn’t have the same birthday. As it turned out I went into labour late at night on my firsts birthday so they are a day apart. But as others have said there is absolutely nothing you can do about it so try not to worry and enjoy the pregnancy.