Ex wants the kids

Morning. I suppose it depends what the joke was. I mean if it genuinely was just something silly then social services should see that. Have you asked your kids why they told their dad it wasnt a joke? Xx

Hi it was my partner pumping and laughing they all were laughing at the time I don’t know what the big deal is also my son has been saying to his dad he doesn’t like my partner anymore even though he’s been around a lot longer than his dad was and making up other things which did happen but have been mad 10x worse

I wouldn't worry about the pumping thing, that is funny lol, God my now husband has mortified my children (age 16 and 13) by letting rip loudly in public, they were not amused hahaha! How old are ur children? The exaggerating thing can be a ploy for attention especially if they don't get much from their dad. I would sit them down and ask them why they are doing this and explain the consequences of such stories (age dependant obviously). I wouodnt worry about social services, children exaggerate, I would be more concerned about they're need to lie, I would turn it around with social services and explain what a disruption their dad is as he's in and out of their lives and these behaviours are a consequence of that xxx

Hi thanks for getting back my children are 15 and 13 they are both autistic and they rely on me a lot I’m a good mum. Everytime their dad comes on the scene trouble starts he’s been in out their lives with different women he doesn’t pay a penny to his kids cause he thinks he has found the one he wants his kids it’s stressing me out I’ve no one to talk too

At that age depending on how much the autism affects them I'd definitly sit them down and ask questions like why? Is something else going on like at school? How does their dad make them feel? Things like that and clearly make sure they understand that lying and exaggerating is totally wrong. Social services won't do anything if there's nothing wrong. Maybe ask their advice about the way the kids behave with their dad and how to curb behaviours that can cause problems. Xxxx

Thank you I’ve tried seating them down they don’t understand how it’s affecting everyone it’s not me they have problem with it’s my partner after 9 years they have decided they don’t like him their dad has come back in their life maybe especially the son is trying to impress him it doesn’t help when he keeps questioning them about my partner some stuff is going back years when it’s been sorted

Ah yeah it's probably the old thing of 'ur not my dad' has your partner tried explaining how it's making him feel and the love he has for them.

I'm sure if it's all old history then u have nothing to worry about xxxx

I’ve told me partner to stay away when kids are around they are at grandmas every weekend so I’ll see him then he’s really hurt by all this he can’t even talk to them as everything will kick off again I’ve got them this weekend on my own and their dad thinks I’m meeting my partner on the sly which I’m not and he called social services saying they were vulnerable i was forcing my partner on them which I’m not he’s very selfish not thinking how it will affect the kids thinking about himself as he always does

If your their main carer he won't be able to just take them off you and depends what the kids say and feel if they feel uncomfortable at yours and want dad they may go there are u a carer for them both if he can show he can care for them and they both say they want to go there with their age they can I'd also tell your partner to not make jokes of them as some kids especially one with disabilities don't see the joke side x

Hi kids live with me their dad has been in and out their lives dating different women not a care in the world about his kids until recently he thinks he has found the one so he’s pushing his luck as for the jokes kids were playing and laughing along at the time then dad comes on the scene and they don’t like my partner any more made everything 10x worse. They don’t want to live with their dad they are happy at home

Social services may speak to the kids school and speak to you but if there is nothing the school has concerns about I wouldnt worry and no court is going to give kids to someone who hasn't been a constant on the children's lives and doesn't know how to deal with their health issues I honestly wouldn't worry to much

Did they call you or turn up on the doorstep ??

what was the outcome ?

likely to have been dropped …

Hiya haven’t heard anything yet supposed to have called them Friday had kids weekend not a peep from their so called dad my partner stayed away (even though he didn’t do anything wrong) maybe he’s all mouth as usual

Ask him how he’ll like paying for the children’s food, clothes, school supplies, tech, toys etc if he wants to play games and he will end up having to provide for them!!!!

Also ask what “the one” will think of him if she finds out he’s never paid a penny towards the care of these children he’s pretending to be so invested in suddenly?

Tell him you’ll let her know the truth if he doesn’t back off stirring up crap about your partner and he’s not to talk about him to the children again!