Suspended for Swearing
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Last post: 09/02/2024 at 10:27 am
A bit of a background: My 9yo goes to a CAtholic school. We are from a Southeast Asian country and moved to North America and have been here 9 months now.
Just this week my kid got suspended for a day. He was chatting with his bff/classmate on a school-monitored chat, and there they were calling each other names and typed in words like "Mother-----"
My son was the one suspended because he was the one who started saying those things. Asked what made him do that he would say "because I thought it was funny." or "He (the friend) told me that before" and that was funny to them when they're doing it, so that's what it was to him - just a funny joke. Which clearly wasnt.
The suspension is over but how do I prevent something like this to happen again? The school's solution was to let those kids stay away from each other and make good choices. But can you really expect a kid to stay away from his bff when they get to see each other everyday?
I would appreciate any thoughts you have on this matter.
It's abit over the top suspending over that. Kids will do this outside school and wasn't harmful make sure he speaks on a none school thing next time and make sure your monitoring messages anyway and say if any bad words won't be able chat outside school.
Either try n stop him from swearing or don’t let him hang around his friend if he is getting the swearing from his friend.If he swears at home just tell him off or just ignore him.
School have a duty to stop online abuse and bullying.
They will have a filtering process to highlight bad language threats, abuse, website access etc. If your child is a risk to the other child they have to protect the child at school.
Using that sort of language is not acceptable at any age let alone 9 year olds.
What you wish to do at home is up to you. But this is about safeguarding both children and if that means limiting your sons access to the other child this should be considered an option. There is also the discussion school will have had with the other parents and what was agreed with them. They may wish to limit access I could not say.
School have a duty to stop online abuse and bullying.
They will have a filtering process to highlight bad language threats, abuse, website access etc. If your child is a risk to the other child they have to protect the child at school.
Using that sort of language is not acceptable at any age let alone 9 year olds.
What you wish to do at home is up to you. But this is about safeguarding both children and if that means limiting your sons access to the other child this should be considered an option. There is also the discussion school will have had with the other parents and what was agreed with them. They may wish to limit access I could not say.
i dont believe there is bullying because these two are best friends. They are just being inappropriately silly with each other when together. I know its not right but its just that these kids are friends but only a bad combination. Ive had my son being called names by that kid too and they just laugh it off. My kid also got punched by same kid before but he didnt take offense and they remain good friends.
the solution was to let them stay away from each other but wouldnt that be virtually impossible considering they are classmates?
It is the school's problem to administer how they keep the children separated. You don't need to do anything or worry if it is sustainable or not.
