🥹 Advice!! - Financial Abuse & Rights
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Last post: 15/02/2024 at 8:41 am
Hello, I am a co parenting mum of two (11&10).
My ex husband and I arranged our divorce amicably at the time but once the divorce was finalised he renegged on the agreements we made and what has followed are two years of what I percieve to be financial abuse.
Some background - We co own a business which is our primary source of income, he is the Managing Director and after having kids I focused on parenting, we seperated and by mutual agreement I continued to recieve my income through the business. We now do 50/50 custody of the children.
We opted for a one off payment divorce and not maintenance but once the divorce was finalised he did not make this payment and also stopped my income from the business with no notice.
Now in a very diffifult financial position I have tried to arrange for our agreement to be court ordered but lawyers are espensive and so we are in mediation. I am now struggling to cover monthly costs such as food & housing while my ex husband has given himself a pay rise and purchased a new car. Mediation is taking forever!
I asked if he could assist with my short fall for this months rent and he has offered to lend me the money to be paid back in six months. This does not feel right to me. I am now consodering making an application to the court for an emergency financial order to assist with costs.
i would like some advice on how best to proceed, do I accept the loan or seek a finance order?
Thank you for your gelp x
Hello Mamabear274
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Also contact pregnantthenscrewed they can support with you being fired without due process. There was a similar case in the news last year and she was able to claim a significant amount from her ex. Sorry you’re going through this x
Hi, I am sorry to read this but sometimes you need proper legal advice especially when it becomes clear one party is not being amicable as you had hoped.
was your agreed confirmed in writing it has been implemented?
if you have not had any advice to date go and see a solicitor. A mediator cannot enforce anything only a court can.
if he has funds then seriously consider a maintenance pending suit application (you need divorce application up and running) a solicitor can speak to you about this.
can the agreement be overturned? There all serious questions but a lot more information would be needed.
x
So sorry your going through this no don't accept this loan that's disgusting as a parent an ex partner. Contact the council and universal credit theynwill help you x
Also contact pregnantthenscrewed they can support with you being fired without due process. There was a similar case in the news last year and she was able to claim a significant amount from her ex. Sorry you’re going through this x
Thank you this is a great resource
Don't accept a loan from your ex-husband. Applying to the court for an emergency financial order may be a more appropriate step.
