How old is to old to have a baby

I was 43 when I had our son in 2014 he was a bit of a suprise but a wonderful suprise...I was called a geriatric mum at the time but that didn't bother me... people will say nasty vile things but I just rose above it and ignored them. Our son is 9 and is our world 🌎 .all I will say is you do what suits you and noone else xx

I'm 34 and I feel anything after 30 is too old . I didn't want any after 30 and had my last 2 at 28 and 29. I'm 34 now and as much as I'm sad I won't have another I couldn't have another ill be too tired. And like I'm a younger mum for my eldest who's in year 8 and when I'm 40 my two little ones will be year 7 but u do what works for you and your family were all different x

Hi Nuala,

First of all I would like to say how sorry I am that you lost your baby.

Secondly, if you want to have another baby it’s no one’s business apart from you and your partner.

I had my first at 30, 2nd at 33 and 3rd at nearly 39. I’ve found that being an older mum has kept me young and it’s the same for my friends who are also older mums.

i wish you all the best whatever you decide

Pam x

Hi Nuala,

this is what happened to me. I had two older children and thought our family was complete. I then had a surprise pregnancy, just as I was getting used to the idea I miscarried and realised I wanted another baby. I was 40. I was 42 when I had my little girl. Not going to lie my pregnancy was harder than my other two but I now have a beautiful 3 year old and she makes me happy every day.

You are definitely not too old as long as you know that’s what you want xx

Best thing I did was have more children in my mid late 30s. I had for in my 20s my 4 th has Cerebral palsy & id thought I’d finished, I couldn’t of coped with a baby & her needing attention plus her behaviour ( diagnosed as an adult with Autism)

when she was 7 I found my self pregnant but like you miscarried, then a had a 2nd 6 mths later It then took a long 9 mths to conceive again, but this time I did give birth. I loved motherhood again so much i needed another, but again MC, then took a year to conceive again, she was born when I was 39, I had a boy 15 mths later @ near 41.

The pregnancies were very tiring , but looking after a newborn is no different than in your 20s, when at the toddler stage imo you’ve more patience as an older mum.

However I was found to have an under active thyroid! When looking back on my med records & comparing USA to U.K TSH readings, it seems I’d had it years. Hence the Miscarriages, the exhausting pregnancies & my son suffering with dyspraxia! I can say I’ve proof that Thyroid issues contributed to all above & not my age as Dr’s said, but that’s another page so I’ll sign off here. Sending you baby dust 🧚 & 🙏🏼

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

I had my second baby at 39.

I feel like having my baby at that age made me feel younger. People even say to me that I look younger since having my second baby... weird. Maybe it's hormones or healthy lifestyle... I have been breastfeeding for a year and half now, so I have been eating more healthy than before my pregnancy.

If you want to have another child and you feel like you can do it, then why not... I definitely wouldn't worry what other people may think. Anyway, women have babies at older age now. Average age for having first baby in the UK is 30 and a lot of women have babies now around 40.

Absolutely not.

I had a missed miscarriage at 39, longed for another and after almost a year nothing. Then 3 weeks after my 40th bday I found out I was expecting and now have a 5 month old at 41.

my older ones are 21/16 and 10 so never expected it plus have 16/12/5 year old step children. Wouldn’t change it for the world. Sorry for your loss

I met my husband later in life and we had our two kids I was 39 & 40. Recently had a miscarriage at 48 but I was over the moon when I found out I was pregnant even though it was a surprise so was heartbroken to lose it. At 38, I wouldn't even think twice. Most people are only starting their families at that age. You are not classed a geriatric mom until you are 40 so go for it and very best of luck

I had my second child at 43. As long as you’re relatively fit and healthy and don’t mind being the oldest mum when they start school, then I don’t see an issue.