TTC/redundancy
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Last post: 16/09/2023 at 1:55 pm
We've been off contraception since January, but hubby is military and away a lot so it’s not happened yet
I currently work long night shifts. I think this is affecting my hormones and in turn affecting falling pregnant. I have ask the GP for blood tests as they said I may have low estrogen. I just get ill so much and I think it’s the lifestyle/stress of the job.
Im the higher earner, independent woman etc and then I met hubby who came with nothing (I didn’t mind because he doesn’t live here, well officially does but is barely here). He gives me some money but not equivalent to half. He still refers to the house as my house, even though I tell him now we’re married it’s his too)
My workplace are having a restructure which is giving me the opportunity to move to day shift. This sounds ideal but waking up at 4:30am still isn’t ideal and then getting home after 8pm. I cannot see how I’d go back to this job after maternity if/when I do fall pregnant. So I have also been offered money to leave (they don’t want me too but the company has given everyone the option).
I figured now would be a good time to take a more relaxed job. Something that wasn’t my sole focus. That wouldn’t be too strenuous through pregnancy and something I could potentially go back to. Hubby has asked me if I want to take more money from him, but I always said I didn’t mind how it is now and he can step up once there’s a baby.
Has anyone been in a similar position? What job did you go do that’s just nice and relaxed? No taking stresses home. No night shifts/early mornings.
Ive been on tiktok looking at working mum budgets etc. but it would be good to get first hand experiences?
Thanks
I just wanted to say that you’re not on maternity until you’re actually on maternity.
What I mean by this is that you’re still not pregnant, you still have maternity leave ahead of you… your coming back to work could be two years away!!! So you don’t necessarily need to leave your job and the higher pay now.
And once you’re pregnant there should be a risk assessment done by occupational health. Would you still be required to work night shifts then or could they find you other tasks? Why do you still have to wake up at 4:30 if you move to days?
it’s a different story if you think it’s affecting your TTC. In that case I’d absolutely say take redundancy and enjoy a different lifestyle.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
hi, what job do you do that involves getting up at 4.30am even when switching to a day shift?!
Something to consider - the amount of redundancy potentially being offered to you vs the loss of any enhanced maternity package.
Back when I was pregnant, a lot of places required a minimum length of service - so if you change jobs whilst pregnant or become pregnant soon after, you may just get statutory.
e.g. where I worked previously, the minimum was 2 years at the company. I got 6 months full pay which was definitely worth having...
I'd be inclined to change jobs if you're finding the hours and work stressful.
I would also consider a break in TTC until you find the right job and the right work place, especially if you're getting limited financial support from your partner. Give yourself some time to settle and to work out if the new environment suits you. Also time to prove yourself to your new employee so that they're more inclined to show you flexibility later on e.g. should you want to work part time.
