My (23m) boyfriend finally told his mom that I am pregnant…
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Last post: 24/01/2024 at 6:22 pm
My 23yo boyfriend finally told his mom that I am 13 weeks pregnant and he just told me that she said some bad things about me, is very very upset and he wants to be alone for a bit (He did ask for us to see eachother tomorrow and we can talk about it more and hang out, so I assume it’s just for a bit or the whole night).
his mom pretends to like me in my face, and is a complete troll behind my back.
we are great together and supposed to be moving in together at the end of this month. But I am a bit sad as to why he wants to be alone after that conversation and with knowing she said some bad things about me. She usually always talks random assumptions as everything she’s ever said has been obviously untrue.
Is it the pregnancy hormones or should I be concerned? I’ve been an emotional wreck these past couple of weeks.
Be prepared to be bringing baby up alone, if he’s already needing a break after telling his mom instead of being by your side then he’s likely to always be doing this so I would have a long think if this is something you feel you can do alone. Do you have friends & family to help out when needed? How will things be when baby’s here will he be taking baby to see his mom without you allowed there if it comes to that, will he let his mom over rule what you say when it comes to baby. Best to think how you will go about things if you do have to do this alone as his mom maybe in ur life for along time, best solution would possibly be to sit down with your boyfriend to talk through why he felt the need for a break & both sit down with his mom before baby arrives. Good luck.
He's taking time to process his feelings after being blindsided by his mother's reaction.
She sounds horrendous but he needs to get his big boy pants on he's about to become a father and he needs to be there for you and the baby its his responsibility as weĺl.
You're both young and it maybe would have been better to have lived together for a while before bringing a baby in to the mix but it doesn't always happen like that. Men/boys are lot more immature prepare to maybe have to go this alone.
To be fair I didn't tell anyone (apart from my partner) until after my 12 week scan and even then it was just a few family members I told until I had my 20 week scan.
Maybe his mam just made him realise how hard it is to look after a baby and how much his life is going to change. Some people don't realise how hard it is to be a parent. I know I didn't until I had my daughter.
And I'd tell him to stop gossiping and saying 'his mam said this or that' it will only drive your family apart. Personally, I couldn't give a toss if someone is taking about me behind my back. I've got bigger problems.
