Swinging
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Last post: 19/02/2024 at 12:40 am
Please be kind as I am new to this.... Around 4 weeks ago myself and husband and another couple who are close friends had a few to many to drink and swapped and slept with each others husbands.... Neither party has ever done this before! At the time we all loved it and it has happened 3 times since, the day after I am always buzzing then I get to day 5 and I am full of anxiety wondering where its going to lead or could it effect my marriage. I've always been quite open minded but never really put into practice... Help advice needed.
Many thanks
If all concerned are secure in their marriages, then no biggie. You do have to think carefully about a couple of things: -
1. What if one couple become attracted to each other?
2. Jealousy
3. What sort of advice are you looking for?
You sound like you are after approval or reassurance, which you dont need from anyone on this forum.
I think you all need to set some boundaries, or things could get out of hand.
If you are having fun - great. But think about if one person no longer wishes to participate - then what?
I am not offering advice, but merely asking you to think about various scenarios.
I have been a "bull" to a cuck couple, I have been a 3rd person in a 3-some etc... and I am a professional, and a trained counsellor, so having had a bot of an experience, just saying....
If all concerned are secure in their marriages, then no biggie. You do have to think carefully about a couple of things: -
1. What if one couple become attracted to each other?
2. Jealousy
3. What sort of advice are you looking for?
You sound like you are after approval or reassurance, which you dont need from anyone on this forum.
I think you all need to set some boundaries, or things could get out of hand.
If you are having fun - great. But think about if one person no longer wishes to participate - then what?
I am not offering advice, but merely asking you to think about various scenarios.
I have been a "bull" to a cuck couple, I have been a 3rd person in a 3-some etc... and I am a professional, and a trained counsellor, so having had a bot of an experience, just saying....
So I am 38 my husband is 51. We have been together for 18 years, 2 children and a successful business.
I think your right I'm trying to look for reassurance. I also worry it may get deeper than just sex just swapping with the same couple. I definitely over think things! It was more me that instigated it but my husband is definitely not complaining now....
If all concerned are secure in their marriages, then no biggie. You do have to think carefully about a couple of things: -
1. What if one couple become attracted to each other?
2. Jealousy
3. What sort of advice are you looking for?
You sound like you are after approval or reassurance, which you dont need from anyone on this forum.
I think you all need to set some boundaries, or things could get out of hand.
If you are having fun - great. But think about if one person no longer wishes to participate - then what?
I am not offering advice, but merely asking you to think about various scenarios.
I have been a "bull" to a cuck couple, I have been a 3rd person in a 3-some etc... and I am a professional, and a trained counsellor, so having had a bot of an experience, just saying....
I’m new to this but offer reassurance. There’s some of us that monogamy does not fit. We seek more partners for sex. That’s not saying our main partner is not loved. Many swingers say it enhances the relationship. I for one love watching my lady with another man .
my advice go for it. It’s fun. There’s of course a risk but for me the benefits far exceed those
Hi, i have had the same situation. Just wondered how u got on x
I Couldn't do it , it would ruin the relationship for me personally. Two people that love eachother enjoy eachother ... Then when you add other people into the mix .... Well .....
If my partner asked or even mentioned this it would be a straight divorce ...
Luckily he's not interested in sharing me or sleeping with another woman
All the best
I Couldn't do it , it would ruin the relationship for me personally. Two people that love eachother enjoy eachother ... Then when you add other people into the mix .... Well .....
If my partner asked or even mentioned this it would be a straight divorce ...
Luckily he's not interested in sharing me or sleeping with another woman
All the best
Hi,
its an experience not for the majority. From my experience particularly when I m on vacation in Caribbean, I have met and enjoyed the company of mainly mature couples, in 40 -60’s , many professional types included.who are curious and explore their desires in a discreet situation. Mutual benefits without commitment between consenting adults. Like I say, this is not to everyone’s taste and has to be carefully managed.
Ahh see I know some people can do this but those in loving real relationships couldn't touch or think about going with someone else. It's cheating. And knowing the probably enjoy it more then you it's like glorified cheating. Thinking it's okay. But reality is its a broken relationship seeking attention from elsewhere
