My son wants to be a girl
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Last post: 21/12/2023 at 9:47 pm
Anonymous
20/12/2018 at 5:25 pm
My 5 year old son desperately wants to be a girl, he loves wearing dresses only plays with girl toys. I’m pretty good on letting him be who he wants to be, but tonight he’s just said to me that he hates himself because he’s a boy and wants to be a girl which broke my heart 😢 he also wants to start wearing girls school uniform.. I’m all happy with letting him be who he/she wants to be but other children can be really cruel and I can’t help but worry for him.. I don’t know anyone who is going through this so would be nice if I could get some support to help support him ♥️
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Anonymous
20/12/2018 at 6:15 pm
When I was 5 I loved to pretend I was Sonic The Hedgehog. Now I'm adult I definitely don't identify as Sonic The Hedgehog.
Can't kids be kids anymore? The sad thing is that I can't even tell if this is a troll post or not.
Can't kids be kids anymore? The sad thing is that I can't even tell if this is a troll post or not.
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Anonymous
20/12/2018 at 6:56 pm
Hi Kirsty I have just posted about my daughter wanting to become a boy. I’m new on here as well. It’s so difficult having a child not wanting to be who they are. I have accepted her as she is and I allow her to be herself. But this is causing people at school to isolate and bully her. I really don’t want her to be unhappy but her wanting to be a boy is making her sad at school and it hurts so much to see my child hurt and I cannot help her. I really understand how u feel. I think we both need to remain strong and support our children and accept them as they are. I really don’t know what other advice to give as I’m trying to figure this out myself. ❤️
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Kali C(7)
20/12/2018 at 7:05 pm
Maybe you should explain to your kids that regardless of their genitalia they can do/be what ever they want they don’t have to be the other gender. Sorry but having a 5 & 3 year old they wouldn’t even know being the opposite sex is an option let alone wanting to be, they don’t see us any differently. The only reason they would is if they are told girls do this and boys do that.
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Chelle
20/12/2018 at 7:29 pm
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Natasha93
20/12/2018 at 7:42 pm
I don’t have any experience of this, I can only give my personal opinion and I personally believe it’s a phase (might not be but only time will tell) my daughter wants to be paw patrol and wants to wear it all the time but there’s a time and a place for fancy dress. If she was to come to me and say she wants to be a boy I would say the same untill she’s older xx
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Laura C(799)
20/12/2018 at 8:00 pm
I kind of agree with above although I am very pro-freedom of choice. Its hard because we can't dictate others experiences and I mean no disrespect at all.
I definitely think explaining that you can do whatever you want to whether you are a boy or a girl is a good start though.
I definitely think explaining that you can do whatever you want to whether you are a boy or a girl is a good start though.
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Anonymous
20/12/2018 at 8:07 pm
I thought it might be a phase until he now wanting to wear girls school uniform and telling me tonight that he hates himself because he’s a boy that he wants to be a girl! I could never understand transgender when others was going through like what you see on the telly, but this has been going on since he was 2! He’s pretty set that being a girl is what he wants to be.. I’ve been told on many occasions that I have encouraged it but to be honest it was him that encouraged and at the beginning I even found it embarrassing, I just want him to be happy and not to ever feel that he needs to go in that dark place that some of those do x
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Anonymous
20/12/2018 at 8:12 pm
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Anonymous
Hi Kirsty I have just posted about my daughter wanting to become a boy. I’m new on here as well. It’s so difficult having a child not wanting to be who they are. I have accepted her as she is and I allow her to be herself. But this is causing people at school to isolate and bully her. I really don’t want her to be unhappy but her wanting to be a boy is making her sad at school and it hurts so much to see my child hurt and I cannot help her. I really understand how u feel. I think we both need to remain strong and support our children and accept them as they are. I really don’t know what other advice to give as I’m trying to figure this out myself. ❤️
It’s just so hard isn’t it! Because you want to do good by them don’t you! My son at the moment is into ballet and have non uniform and bless him he told me he was gonna go in as a ballerina wearing tights and a tutu! He stopped at the school gate and said mummy I’m so nervous [emoji22] but he did it and I’m proud of him for that! I always take boys clothes if he ever felt the need to change.. I plan to make an appointment to see what I’m suppose to do.. sorry how old is your daughter? X
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Natasha93
20/12/2018 at 9:44 pm
I honestly have no idea what I’m talking about so call me naive, but can he not wear what he wants at home as there’s no harm in him trying out different things but at school wear a uniform (boys uniform) as that’s the rules? Ino I hate wearing my work clothes but that’s just the rules so regardless if he feels like he’s a girl, them are just the rules when you go to school? I would enforce that on my child as that’s just the way the world works (sometimes we have to do things we don’t like) and also I would be so so so scared of my child being bullied. Like I say I am sorry if I sound like a cow [emoji23] and I might see it differently if I was in the same position x
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Anonymous
20/12/2018 at 10:45 pm
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Natasha93
I honestly have no idea what I’m talking about so call me naive, but can he not wear what he wants at home as there’s no harm in him trying out different things but at school wear a uniform (boys uniform) as that’s the rules? Ino I hate wearing my work clothes but that’s just the rules so regardless if he feels like he’s a girl, them are just the rules when you go to school? I would enforce that on my child as that’s just the way the world works (sometimes we have to do things we don’t like) and also I would be so so so scared of my child being bullied. Like I say I am sorry if I sound like a cow [emoji23] and I might see it differently if I was in the same position x
You don’t sound a cow at all, that’s exactly how we do things, there isn’t school rules at our school he could wear girls uniform I don’t feel ready to make that massive step especially at his age, but like I’ve mentioned before that now he’s saying he hates himself because he’s a boy and wants to be a girl.. we as parents are suppose to make our children happy and confident in their own skin.. just think I’m in a awful situation same as other mums that are dealing with the same situation x
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Anonymous
20/12/2018 at 10:52 pm
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Anonymous
When I was 5 I loved to pretend I was Sonic The Hedgehog. Now I'm adult I definitely don't identify as Sonic The Hedgehog.
Can't kids be kids anymore? The sad thing is that I can't even tell if this is a troll post or not.
Can't kids be kids anymore? The sad thing is that I can't even tell if this is a troll post or not.
There is a massive difference in him playing dress up and having a really good imagination!! But when he saying he hates himself at 5! That really concerns me! And this certainly is no troll post! I’m genuinely struggling on making the right decisions on what’s right for him! And looking for support and advice.
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Natasha G(205)
20/12/2018 at 11:04 pm
It is hard isn’t it. I’d get some professional advice and see what they suggest in how to handle the situation. If they have being feeling this way since they were two it doesn’t sound like it’s just s phase. Kids can be so cruel even at 5 but for most it will be a lack of Understanding I have a five year old and I’m confident he couldn’t care less whether a boy was wearing girls clothing or not.
I really do feel for you not knowing what to do for the best but if I was you I would speak to the doctors and to the school to explain the situation and just let him be hisself and try and fill him with as much confidence as possible. X
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I really do feel for you not knowing what to do for the best but if I was you I would speak to the doctors and to the school to explain the situation and just let him be hisself and try and fill him with as much confidence as possible. X
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Anonymous
21/12/2018 at 1:02 am
There’s no such thing as girls toys. Why do you think that your son thinks he is a girl? Perhaps just let him play with what he wants and wear what he wants, it doesn’t mean he can change sex. Steer clear of advice from Mermaids ad other trans lobby groups, it is most likely that your gender non-conforming child will benefit from a watch and wait strategy rather than having a feeling validated by organisations who would recommend puberty blockers and affirmation.
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Anonymous
11/02/2019 at 1:16 pm
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Anonymous
My 5 year old son desperately wants to be a girl, he loves wearing dresses only plays with girl toys. I’m pretty good on letting him be who he wants to be, but tonight he’s just said to me that he hates himself because he’s a boy and wants to be a girl which broke my heart 😢 he also wants to start wearing girls school uniform.. I’m all happy with letting him be who he/she wants to be but other children can be really cruel and I can’t help but worry for him.. I don’t know anyone who is going through this so would be nice if I could get some support to help support him ♥️
I hope Im completing this right its the first time ive done this.....
my son has struggled since he was 5 his now 8. me and my husband always given him the freedom at home to be who he wants to be...so dressing up in my clothes and shoes etc. probably been since 7 his wanted to have dolls etc for birthday xmas. he also hates feeling this way. his such a loving and caring boy too....
At school boys have noticed he plays with girls, his never wanted to wear clothes out of the house. he will take pink water bottles to school and stationary. he says he just wants a friend who a boy who like pink - its heart breaking....
All you can do is support him and be there for him, home is his haven...if he cant be himself there,then where can he be...
His just recently starting having panic attacks at night, I feel if anyone know of a group where similar mum are having the same issues we can all become one with our experiences and help each other and our children..
my son has struggled since he was 5 his now 8. me and my husband always given him the freedom at home to be who he wants to be...so dressing up in my clothes and shoes etc. probably been since 7 his wanted to have dolls etc for birthday xmas. he also hates feeling this way. his such a loving and caring boy too....
At school boys have noticed he plays with girls, his never wanted to wear clothes out of the house. he will take pink water bottles to school and stationary. he says he just wants a friend who a boy who like pink - its heart breaking....
All you can do is support him and be there for him, home is his haven...if he cant be himself there,then where can he be...
His just recently starting having panic attacks at night, I feel if anyone know of a group where similar mum are having the same issues we can all become one with our experiences and help each other and our children..
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