Kid snatching toys from my child
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Last post: 05/02/2024 at 9:49 am
Hi so last week I was at a kids party and my dd5 was holding a toy she found at the soft play and another kid from her class was aggressively trying to snatch it from her. Dd looked as though she was about to cry and I just told her not to let go of it. Eventually the kids parent came over and had to wrestle their son who had managed to snatch it from my daughter. I felt bad because in hindsight I should’ve definitely tried to de- escalate the situation but honestly the kid looked like a bully and I wanted my daughter to try and deal with it herself. She came over to me after and said she’d felt scared, I’ve been feeling like a bad mum ever since.
I'd of said oh this toy my daughter has but you can go find another toy I'd of definitely said something x
Hi Aya,
You made exactly the right decision; you showed your daughter that she is capable of standing her ground against bullying behaviour from other children. It's honestly ok that she was scared, because it's taught her that although she felt scared, she faced the bully and was triumphant. The other mother also acted correctly by removing the toy from her child's grasp and returning it to your daughter, as it has taught him that there are consequences to snatching toys. Please don't feel bad; our job is to enable our children to be self-sufficient in an age appropriate manner. This will give your daughter confidence in future conflicts. You're a fab mum, and clearly a sensitive, over-thinker like I am, so stop feeling guilty and be proud about how both you - and your daughter, handled a difficult situation! Take good care xx
